Fear is one of the most destructive emotions that people experience in their life.

Fear can cripple attaining our goals, our wishes and our dreams.

I remember as a child experiencing  the fear of darkness when I went to bed at night as my parents would turn off the bedroom lights. As I grew up and entered my teens, I learned that nothing bad happened to me when my bedroom lights went off and darkness set in. Thus I became less scared of the dark. In this situation, I gained control over my fear of darkness.

The  point is everyone has one fear or another.

For example, it could be the fear of rejection, it could be the fear of failure, or even the fear of success. How we handle and cope with your fears is different for everyone.

Fear, if left unchecked can sabotage our life and therefore can significantly impede our personal development. 

Definition of Fear

Webster’s Dictionary defines fear as “an unpleasant often strong emotion caused by anticipation or awareness of danger.”

Where Do Our Fears Originate

Most of our fears are created in our early childhood primarily by our parents. As children we are quite vulnerable to what our parents tell us, and therefore our belief systems are strongly shaped by them.

Parents must be aware that when they communicate with their children that what and how they project themselves can have lasting effects.

For example when parents (however well intentioned) constantly express themselves to their children using negative terms such as “No” or “Don’t” or “You Can’t”, this can produce fears in their children that can last into their adulthood. Or if parents are very nervous or fearful themselves, they may project these negative emotions on to their children.

Fears often have no basis in reality and are often completely irrational beliefs, other times, they are based on negative experiences. For example, when a person has a very bumpy ride on an airplane, they may be fearful to fly in the future.

Types of Fears

There are three key fears that most of us experience throughout our lives. They are as follows:

  1. Fear of Rejection – this fear relates to seeking other’s approval.
  2. Fear of Failure – this fear relates to worrying about making mistakes and about hurting other people.
  3. Fear of Success – this fear relates to putting roadblocks in the way of accomplishing our goals.

Ways to Overcome Our Fears

In order to overcome our fears, the first thing we need to  do is acknowledge that they exist. Then we must research and get more information about the types and reasons for the fears we possess. This can be done by going to the internet, our local library and /or bookstore and reading books, blogs and videos. The more knowledge we gain, the more power it gives us to work on eliminating these fears (irrational beliefs)

You can use positive affirmations to overcome your fears such as saying “I can do this ” repeatedly to reprogram your mind and thus put yourself in a more positive state.

You can join support groups where you can learn from other’s how they have dealt with their particular fears.  These support groups may provide you with insights that will help you learn how to more effectively cope with your fears.

In some cases where these fears are deeply rooted seeking professional help may make sense.


Fears are irrational thoughts learned from childhood or the result of negative experiences.

If not addressed, these fears can totally debilitate us and compromise our personal development.

To help you overcome your fears, and allow you to lead a more fulfilling and productive life, try some of the techniques mentioned above.



































































































































About the author: Bob

Bob is a businessman, athlete, and entrepreneur who is passionate about helping people progress personally through better self-awareness.

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