“A rejection is nothing more than a necessary step in the pursuit of success.” by Bo Bennett.

In this post, we will discuss rejection in the workplace and how one can more effectively handle rejection when looking for a new job. You can be a college graduate who is looking to enter the workforce for the first time or someone already employed that wants to change their job.

Handling rejection is not easy but the fact is we all get rejected at some point in time. The ability to handle rejection and not let it cripple us will make a major difference in our life.

How we handle rejection is also an important part of our personal development.

Definition of Rejection

The Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines rejection as the act “to refuse to accept,consider,submit to, take for some purpose, or use.”

The Psychology Behind Rejection

Generally people who have been brought up in homes that are supportive and nurturing tend to handle rejection much better when compared to those that have been brought up in homes that are more critical and/or abusive. Thus the level of self-esteem one has is directly related to how well they handle rejection.

People brought up in homes that tend to be more negative are more prone to feeling more victimized when confronting rejection. They also have a lower level of self-esteem and tend to take rejection more personally. (See my article called Remedies For Low Self-Esteem).

Suggestions On How To Handle Workplace Rejection When Applying For A New Job

Numbers Game

Always try to have multiple interviews with different companies. Life is a numbers game. The  more opportunities and more interviews, the better the odds will work in your favor at some point in time. Do not try to put all your eggs in one basket. Always look for industries that are growing in different locations.

Job Strategy

After receiving a number of rejections and depending on how far you have gotten in the  process, reassess your approach. This includes reviewing your cover letter, your resume and interviewing techniques to ensure that you are doing the best you can to promote yourself. Learn as much about the company in advance of any company interviews. Your skills and accomplishments should align with the specific company requirements.

Career Counselor

You can also go over your cover letter,resume an interviewing techniques with a career counselor to obtain their feedback. This will probably require a fee but might be well worth it.


Keep networking as much as possible asking friends and colleagues if they have any referrals that could help you in your job search. Always be ready to share any job referrals with your friends and colleagues as well.


Do some form of cardiac exercise be it running,swimming or cycling to keep your mind and body in good shape.Exercise will reduce stress generated from your job search. Try to follow a healthy eating program. Some people find meditation helpful.


Become a volunteer and enjoy helping others. This type of work can be both fulfilling and is good for your self-esteem.

Positive Outlook

Never give up.Keep going until  you receive a job offer.Maintain a positive and optimistic attitude throughout the entire process. Remember,many people have launched successful careers later in life and/or in areas very different from their prior experiences.


Rejection is something we all experience in life.

Workplace rejection is the focus of this post.

Try engaging in some of the suggestions above to better handle workplace rejection.


Your internet presence or persona can dramatically affect your job search and the ultimate goal of obtaining employment. Many employers (often before meeting you) will enter a candidate’s name into the major search engines such as Google, Yahoo and/or MSN. The impression they derive from your internet persona can be a deal breaker before you even have a chance to meet your prospective employer.

If the search result comes up with some negative comments, the employer might take a pass on your candidacy. Examples include putting inappropriate comments and/or pictures of yourself on the web.

The purpose of this post will be to share with the reader important guidelines regarding how to handle your online reputation. Remember, maintaining and promoting a good online reputation is directly  related to your personal development.

But before we go any further, let us define the meaning of reputation management.


Wikipedia defines reputation management as follows: “Reputation Management is the understanding or influencing of an individual’s or business’s reputation.It was originally coined as a public relations term, but advancement in computing, the internet and social media made it primarily an issue of search results.”

Online Reputation Guidelines For An Individual

When an individual goes online for the first time, they must be very careful what information they post and/or share with friends and family because once it goes online, it is very difficult to have the information removed.

In order to maintain and promote your online reputation, I would suggest you do the following:

  • Monitor your online reputation on a continuous basis. Put your name into Google and check what the results are. If your last name is a common name such as Smith, put in other distinguishing factors along with your name. This could include a hobby you are presently engaged in, the name of your business or your birthplace.The most important page to monitor on Google is page one as most people will read this page and not go further.


  • Use Google Alerts that brings back anything on the web with your name in it. Any mention of your name on the internet will be sent back to you. These notifications can be sent to you on a daily basis, so as not to inundate your inbox.


  • Purchase a domain name and create a blog. A blog will allow you to publish positive information about yourself and can address a specific niche that you know a lot about. One of the key reasons to have a blog is to become the authoritative source in a specific subject matter. If you receive any negative comments about yourself, you can continue to publish material from your blog that will bury this critical information.


  • Connect with the major social networks. Some networks such as LinkedIn are important to join from a job perspective. Writing a good professional profile of yourself is especially important when joining sites such as LinkedIn. Employers often search on people’s LinkedIn profiles to see if they want to pursue a candidate. Other major sites include Facebook, Twitter, Google+,Tumblr, Pinterest and YouTube. When joining these sites, add new content at least once a month. Joining multiple major social media networks and posting valuable content on them on a regular basis can help offset and protect you from negative comments.


  • Link to all your social media sites. This will make your online presence stronger.


  • Be sure that your grammar, punctuation and spelling are excellent when writing your profile on social media sites. Employers have been known to pass over candidates whose writing is rife with grammatical, punctuation and spelling errors.


  • Place privacy settings on all content you want to share only with a specific group of friends and family. This is very important to protect yourself when sending out confidential information.


  • Employ the services of an online reputation management firm. These companies help to present you in the most positive light and preserve your reputation. Be sure to find out what these companies charge and what they tell you they can do in resolving your problem before signing up with them.


Some individuals are not careful with the information they put up on the internet.

Such things include inappropriate comments and/ or inappropriate pictures. This negative information may result in employers passing you over for a job.

This post provides guidelines on how you as an individual can sustain a good online reputation thus maximizing employment opportunities.


” If you done it, it ain’t bragging.”  Walt Whitman

As an executive recruiter for over 25 years, I helped many candidates learn how to interview effectively with prospective clients.

The purpose of this post will be to highlight and point out some of the basic guidelines for promoting yourself in an interview without coming across as a braggart.

There is a fine line between promoting yourself and coming across in an arrogant manner.

You should remember that successfully promoting yourself in any endeavor is a key factor in one’s personal development.

Before we go any further, we should define what bragging is.


Webster’s New Collegiate Dictionary defines bragging as “to talk boastfully: engage in self-glorification.”

Guidelines For Promoting Yourself Without Bragging

  • Be Authentic -when speaking in front of a prospective client, be yourself and answer all questions as honestly as possible. There are times when candidates sublimate their real personalities and are intimidated by the interviewer. This is a basic mistake.
  • Be A Good Listener try to answer your interviewer’s questions in a short and concise manner. Listen carefully to what is being discussed. Nothing is a greater turn off than when someone rambles on too long when answering a question.
  • Tie Your Accomplishments To The Job Specificationsspeak about your achievements and how they relate to the job for  which you are interviewing.For example, let’s say you interviewing for a financial position that calls for saving money. You would want to provide the interviewer with an example(s) of how you saved money for previous employers. These examples should be as fact driven as possible where information can be supported.
  • Don’t  Make Claims About Yourself That Are Too Exaggerated – try not to make statements about yourself in an interview that are difficult to verify. If you do this you will sound arrogant and boastful.For example, let’s say you work in  a department that creates a specific mechanical device. If you state that you are the most productive person in your department, you would need to prove you created more mechanical devices than your fellow employees.
  • Only Make Statements About Yourself That You Can Substantiate – For example, if you say you  are creative in an interview, bring in some samples of your creativity.  Let’s say you are a photographer – then bring in a portfolio of your work. This makes your claim of creativity much more credible.
  • Do Not Use The Word I Too Often – using the word “I” too much in an interview can make you sound conceited and too self-centered. Remember when possible to give credit to others that helped you in accomplishing a specific goal.


  • Promoting yourself effectively is very important in terms of landing a job and in life in general. It is an important aspect of personal development.
  • If you emulate the above mentioned guidelines, you will be able to promote yourself effectively without appearing to be a braggart



“It’s necessary to be slightly underemployed if you are to do something significant”  James D. Watson

In our  present society, millions of people are both unemployed and underemployed.

It is difficult in these challenging times to find meaning in our work and consequently in our life.

A significant percentage of college graduates find themselves underemployed (assuming they can even land a job at all), saddled with substantial debt and living at home with their parents.

Many middle aged people find themselves underemployed in today’s fast changing market after being forced to leave their former full time positions to go into either part time jobs or jobs beneath their ability and/or qualifications.

Even taking all of these negative factors into account, there really are certain ” bright spots” to being underemployed.

This post is about people who are presently underemployed; and how they can use it to their advantage while at the same time enhance their personal development.

As a financial services recruiter for over 25 years, I had the opportunity to counsel many candidates about perspective jobs. In addition, I assisted candidates that were out of work or were underemployed.

Definition Of Underemployment

Merriam-Webster’s Dictionary defines underemployment as ” the condition in which people in a labor force are employed at less than full-time or regular jobs inadequate with respect to their training or economic needs.”

How People Feel When They are Underemployed

Many people who are underemployed feel depressed, angry and have a loss of self esteem. The more time that goes by before they find a position in alignment with their qualifications, the more these feelings intensify.

The “Brighter” Aspects Of Being Underemployed – Another Viewpoint To Consider

  • Receiving A Paycheck – You are still receiving a paycheck although much smaller in many cases from that of your previous full time job.


  • Learning New Skills – You probably are learning some new skills that can help you in finding your ideal job. These skills may take you in a different career direction you had never thought about before.


  • Networking – You never know who you will meet – There is a saying that as one door shuts, another one opens. The more people you network with both online and offline, the more your chances increase to find an optimal job.


  • Broadening Your Horizons – Viewing Things From A Different Perspective – For example, if you were an executive and now you are in a staff position, you gain a better perspective on what it takes to get a job/task accomplished. This insight will give you a broader understanding and appreciation of colleagues/employees in the future.


  • Opportunities For Job Promotions – You may have the chance to be promoted when better economic times prevail.


  • Possibilities For Increased Free Time – You may have more free time. This time can be spent looking for your ideal job or doing something totally different that you never had time to do before.


There is another way to view underemployment.

The ability to look at the other side of the coin will help you in your personal growth and development.