11. July 2013 · 4 comments · Categories: Social

Introduction 

Did you know that a lot of parents of children being bullied have no idea that their child is the victim of bullying?

Bullying is one of the most serious issues to confront society and can substantially impact personal development.

Bullying, left unchecked, can significantly devastate the human psyche and leave psychological scars that can last for an individual’s entire lifetime. We are all too well aware that taken to the extreme, bullying can lead to death including suicide. Bullying can also greatly affect the quality of our lives – many people who have  experienced bullying in their formative and adolescent years have been so traumatized that they no longer can lead productive and happy lives.

Bullying is pervasive and can be found in all areas of our life.

I am going to focus on how bullying affects school children in their formative and adolescent years.

Definition of Bullying

Webster’s Dictionary defines a bully as “one who is habitually cruel to others weaker than himself.”

Bullying can include physical and/or emotional abuse.

Some examples of bullying include physical threats or violence, name calling and teasing.

The victims of bullies feel isolated and alone.

School Bullying Statistics

Bullying Statistics, an online website devoted to the prevention of bullying, states that “about one in four children -25% -in the U.S. are bullied on a regular basis. Between cyber bullying and bullying at school, the school bullying statistics illustrate a hugh problem with bullying and the American school system.

In a recent survey, teens in 6th through 10th grade are the most likely to be involved in activities related to bullying. About 30% of students in the United States are involved in bullying on a regular basis either as victim, bully or both.” These school bullying statistics are indicative of the magnitude of this problem in today’s world.Schools have begun to take measures to address this issue.

In a large percentage of bullying cases, no intervention or effort is made by a teacher or administration member of the school to stop the bullying from taking place.

What Should Children and Teens Do If Someone Tries to Bully Them?

Children and teens should immediately bring it to the attention of their parents and teachers.

How Can You know If Your Child Is Being Bullied?

As a parent, you may suspect your child is being bullied, but are not quite sure. The following are some common signs that a child might be experiencing bullying:

  • Comes home with damaged or missing belongings
  • Has unexplained cuts, bruises, and scratches
  • Has few, if any, friends
  • Seems fearful of going to school
  • Experiences sudden poor performance in school
  • Appears sad, lonely or depressed
  • Has problems sleeping

Recommendations to Address Bullying in our Schools

  1. Early Detection and  Prevention – There must be a holistic approach to identifying bullying that includes dialogue among the students, teachers, school administration and parents. All of these groups should have regularly scheduled meetings and training to discuss and identify bullying issues. Within this integrated setting, teachers and students and the school administration must all take responsibility. The sooner a bully is identified, the better the chances are that issues can be resolved.
  2. Direct Intervention Bullies must learn that there are consequences to their actions. Along with a holistic approach to bullying, when bullies are identified, immediate action must be taken in the form of psychological counseling for both the victim and the bully. This may be followed by formal warnings, expulsion from the school, and in extreme cases, community service or confinement.

In  Essence:

  • Bullying remains a major problem in our schools across the United States and throughout the world; and it is not going away anytime soon.
  • Even with the dreadful stories we read about in the newspapers of children and teens committing suicide resulting from bullying, many of those in positions of accountability do not take a stand.
  • The psychological and physical effects from bullying can be extremely profound and last for an individual’s entire lifetime.
  • It is extremely important that all relevant parties including students, teachers, school administration and parents be actively engaged with each other to understand what activities constitute bullying and how all of these parties can help prevent bullying in our schools.
  • There are definite warning signals that parents should be aware of that may indicate that their child is being bullied.
  • Although specific communities have actively engaged in combating bullying, more communities and schools need to adopt  a vigorous process of early detection and prevention.This must be followed by counseling and direct Intervention in our schools and taking appropriate disciplinary actions.

About the author: Bob

Bob is a businessman, athlete, and entrepreneur who is passionate about helping people progress personally through better self-awareness.

4 Comments

  1. Thanks for sharing this important information. I especially appreciate the “How Can You know If Your Child Is Being Bullied?”

    • Dear Gary,

      Thanks for your comment about my post on bullying.

      This is a very serious problem in our society that needs constant vigilance.

      Best,

      Bob
      5 Springs Media

  2. Uncle Bob you did a great job on the blog.You are the best

    • Dear Sheng,

      I appreciate your comment about my blog on Bullying. This is such an important topic and it needs to be addressed in our school system more comprehensively.

      All my best,
      Uncle Bob

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